Our first born

Dear Cole,

Sometime in the next week you will no longer be an only child.  This is not a decision that your dad and I included you in on and for that you may not forgive us for a while.  I know that you are to young to understand when we talk about the baby or your baby sister, but please know that this was not a secret we were keeping from you nor did we have any intention of "ruining" your life as you may tell us one day.

It may seem like you are not getting as much attention as you have been accustomed to receiving but understand that it in no way means that we love you any less now that you have a little sister.  You will still get the same love, hugs, kisses, cuddles, high fives, and tickle time that you have now, but you have to understand that your sister will also be getting it too.

Both your dad and I can relate to exactly what you are going through because we both are the oldest children in the family.  We experienced exactly what you are about to and we made it through.   I don't expect you to be perfect.  I do expect there to be some jealously but please be nice to your sister.  She is coming into to this world not knowing what it is like to be an only child.  She will only know life with her big brother Cole and she will just adore you.  She may pester you at times but to her you walk on water and she just wants to do what you are doing and be just like you.  

Please try to make it easy on your mom and dad over the next few weeks.  This new addition is not only affecting your world but ours as well.  Mommy will do her best once daddy goes back to work to give you all the attention you need.  Sometimes I may be very overwhelmed by all the new responsibilities but I will do my best to not snap at you.

We love you Cole, more than you will ever know.  That is not going to change just because you now have a sister.

Love

your mom and dad